A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.

As charcoal to embers and as wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome man for kindling strife.

A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day; restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand.

A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.

Do you see a man who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for him.

Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.

Proverbs, The Bible.

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Get started talking together

There are numerous ways and means to begin growth and maturity in a marriage. Maybe begin by asking questions and talking together about the real answers. Do a little homework and begin the process on your own, make sure you want it.

Talk about this:

  1. What are some specific things that delight you about your marriage?
  2. When were you recently aware of one of these delights?
  3. What changes would you like to make in your marriage?
  4. When do you experience the desire for these changes most acutely?
  5. In what ways do you need to grow in your marriage?
  6. In what ways do you think your spouse needs to grow?

What do you discover about yourself in answering these questions?

What do you discover about your spouse?

Is this kind of conversation helpful in you relationship or does it cause conflict? See if you can discover why...

Talk About this:

  1. In what ways has your relationship with your spouse changed you? (Think of how you have changed for the better in this case.)
  2. In what way is your spouse special? How is he or she like no other person in your life?
  3. What intrigues you about your spouse?
  4. What are your spouse's potentials, giftedness, burdens, and passions? Make a list for each area.
  5. Does thinking about your spouse lead you to worship God? Explain.

See how much of the above information you two can talk through together. Call me and let me know how it went. Write it in a journal to better form your thoughts and keep the journal to watch your progress in the months ahead.

I'm glad you've decided to get started on growing together in your marriage relationship!

Thank You for trusting me and allowing me to join you in your Adventure of Love,

Michael Carstens

    Relationship Coach